According to a study done by the University of Kansas, if you tend to blab about your life over Facebook, you’re asking for relationship problems. This kind of seemed like a no-brainer to me. I mean, I don’t want my husband posting all kinds of stuff about our relationship over Facebook. That would seem like a betrayal of trust. Whatever intimacy you create between yourselves as a couple deserves its own space to live and breathe, because it is the stuff that makes love move forward.

I have a blog about dating and relationships, so it’s boggling to my mind how my husband is totally supportive of me doing this, knowing that I could say whatever I want about us. But I don’t dish. There’s a line, and both partners have to know where it is. So why do people still feel compelled to share their personal shit over Facebook? Well, that’s difficult. I didn’t grow up with Facebook, so I know a little about privacy.

We have online and offline versions of ourselves. Sometimes they are the same, and other times you can be a little bolder with your Facebook persona, or maybe a little funnier or whatever. But there are some things you want kept between you and your partner. Like a naked pic or two. But as soon as you have a fight or break up, those pics are fair game, aren’t they? The line between public and private gets blurry fast. And once something is shared, it can be hard to take back.

The study pointed out that people whose partners post a lot of personal stuff over Facebook are not very happy or intimate in their relationships. And that’s kind of sad. Because if one of you could get your nose out of your phone and stop posting every minute to your FB page, well then you could interact more with each other. You could be closer. It just takes some effort, and some detachment from all things electronic. It’s worth it to have a great, trusting relationship.